Why is aiden so annoying

Didn't even consider eBay, Gumtree or any other designer shoe-selling outlet. When she got so annoyed that Big's wife wouldn't forgive her for having an affair with her husband and letting her chase her down the stairs and crack her tooth. Oh great, good idea, go and sulk at her when she's having lunch. She did then get mugged though, which was pretty tragic.

Oh, and when she was also annoyed that Aidan wouldn't get over the fact that she had an affair with Big, and moaned "you have to forgive meeeehhh" at him about 47 times in a row while rolling around her doorframe.

When she freeeeeaked out because her Tag-from-Friends boyfriend was bisexual. The "paper covers rock" BS when she said that her dumping from a bloke she was casually seeing and having crap sex with was worse than Charlotte's failed marriage. When she always, always, brings conversations about her friends' problems y'know, divorce, infertility, CANCER back to her after about 3 courtesy sentences from them.

When she tells Aidan she doesn't want to see him so much because it's going really well and she really likes him. When she lets Big, who she had an affair with, come to the aforementioned country house of Aidan, who she cheated on.

Is then surprised they fight. When she makes eye contact with a horse outside The Plaza and thinks they have connected spirits. Plus, the Y looks a bit random. I don't like this name in general, but I do prefer this spelling to all others. No one's gonna assume an Ayden's name is spelled this way though.

This name sucks. This spelling is lazy and looks like it is pronounced Ayd-En. It is also very overused when spelled Aidan or Aiden so this name is already common, why bastardize it? This spelling is awful.

Don't name your kid this unless you're gonna pronounce it "eye-den" if you're just gonna say "Aidan", you might as well stick with Aidan or Aiden. This spelling is absolutely disgustingly trendy.

Go with Aidan so your child does not have to face the embarrassment. I saw this hideous, trendoid kreatyv spylyng in a self-published book set in the 19th century. It's bad enough that so many book, movie, and tv writers these days are having non-child characters named Aidan or the misspelt Aiden , but to put such an obviously currently trendy name on someone from years ago?

Just because a name is popular doesn't mean it's accurate to use it on a character who was born way before the trend! If you really want your child to be unique, name them something actually uncommon, not an ugly misspelling of a extremely popular name.

Ayden is also a variant of the Turkish name Aydin. Why do people insist on intentionally misspelling names? I love the spelling of the name. You can try and change the decisions you make, knowing your flaw and trying to improve yourself , but you are the same person inside.

And the person you are with should take you or leave you. If they decide to take you, they can appreciate the things you do to make yourself a better person, but they should understand and accept you for exactly who you are inside.

I always thought Carrie and Mr. Big, and what their relationship stands for, set a horrible example. I know a lot of people who stay in truly shitty relationships, or cling to and romanticize their failed relationship, because they buy into the Carrie and Mr. Big syndrome. The deeper into a shitty relationship you get, the more you get invested, the more you feel the need to stick with it, the more you need to validate that staying with that person was the right thing to do. The more you lose, the more you need to continue gambling in the hopes of winning your money back.

OMG, Beneath…. Second of all, I love Mr. For many reasons. First, you cannot say that he was the one to bring out the worst in Carrie she crazy all on her own , she smoked with other lovers Burger, some with Aiden, The Russian.

Once a cheater? We love a chase. So whatever. But in that case, Carrie is and will always be a cheater so therefore she deserves a cheater, too. But I think there is something attractive about him—something he brings to the table that no one else has. Their relationship is completely different. Thanks for your thoughtful comment. How can we have such similar life experiences and be different?? I mean, yeah, he started to lose his hair there for a bit.

I would chose Aidan over Big any friggin day. You are right, I am romanticizing Carrie. So I tend to forget some of the crappy things that Carrie did. So, perhaps she and Mr. Big are made for each other. I find Carrie to be kind of an annoying character most of the time, and I hate Mr. Big… so it seems fitting they end up together. Suddenly, you guys will be happy and live happily ever after. I can just imagine women everywhere watching Mr. Big chose Carrie at the end. Maybe time will change my perspective.

People can change Catherine. They do it all the time. Is it easy for people to change? But do they change? All the time. I can improve my driving, I can try to be more open to love. I, however, cannot change my personality or my genuineness as a person. Hardly even recognize them, they are so different! But you are right, this blog is partly about improving myself… so hopefully, some change is possible!

Thanks for the comment. Mr Big.. I call him Mr Pig. Very frustrating that Carrie could be interested and trust in him after how he has treated her. I have always been a cheater and very commitment phobic but when you meet the right person it will change you. It may take time and trials but both parties will be different and for the better. Thanks, Tiff! Appreciate your reading and commenting.

You may be right about Carrie and Big, the drama did get them to where they ultimately ended up! The sad thing is that alot of women are attracted to Mr. Big -types…. Jean, You definitely need to be with someone who brings out the best — not the worst — in you. Thanks for your comment. Oh my gosh, I love this post!! Hahaha… I looooathed Big but I felt like they kind of deserved each other. You know what I mean. Mandi, You are so right! Aidan would never have done that.

Glad you enjoyed this post…. I agree with you completely. All the best with starting over! Sonny, Good luck to you too! However, I do believe that people change. We have to in order to grow and sometimes just do as a result of the variety of experiences in life an people we meet.

In most cases, I find that this type of hope for change would necessitate a near death experience, a visit from three ghosts or for them to have someone treat them as badly or worse. Thank you for your comment, Eli. Your last paragraph particularly resonated with me… wow. I mean, you are so right. I imagine him living this wonderful life with her. Thanks for opening my mind to that. I appreciate your insight and your sharing your story.

That was just so unrealistic — like spinsters daydream.. OK, it was beautiful, it was romantic, but girls: things like this.. I feel bad for girls and women who may now think that t h e i r own Mr.

Big is going to pop the question anytime now.. So not going to happen. Aidan was the man for Carrie. I mean, Jesus, have you seen how Carrie dresses when she is with Mr. Nothing left of her old self… such a pity.. And one more thing: If there was one woman for Mr. Charlotte, a brunette Mr. I cannot see a stock broker type being into boho chic.

In real life Carrie would have never married Mr. Gorgeous women got dumped, as happens in real life too, they chase after dreams.. They have to learn to trust themselves and each others.. This is what I loved. Nothing more. As for hating Mr. Big for cheating his wife: I can understand that feeling. But he is probably a cheater by nature and personality and up-bringing — one cannot change a man like that. My own father was that type of a man, he had other women despite of my mother being a beautiful woman and devoted wife.

Such is life. Bigs of this world carry on marrying their barbaras and natashas, and cheating them with carries.

But they always end up marrying barbaras and natashas, over and over again. Great comment — totally agree! Big, but I do wonder if that would work. I think Charlotte needs a little more attention and fairy tale than Mr. Big could offer, however.

Thanks for your comment — glad someone agrees! Oh goodness…I am trying to get over my latest Mr. I know, he never works out — in real life, unlike the show, he never works out. I have an Aiden trying to snag me now…. LSMA, I totally think you can have a spark — and a good guy. Just gotta give yourself time to find it, without settling for the Mr. Growingfelicia, OMG! YOU and women like you are the exact reason I wrote this post! Because the odds of him changing after this many breakups, I would say, are probably slim.

I believe people change. But majority, not for the better. I fell in love with who i thought was the nicest guys and 2 years later he changed into someone i dont recognise, broke up with me and not 24 hours later had someone else in his bed. People do change. I too get totally and completely involved in the lives of the fictional characters I watch. Watching the relationship of Carrie and Mr. Big unfold was painful. There were so many red flags from the beginning. The constant pain he put her through and then doing that on her wedding day, a day that every girl dreams about is just not okay!

For him to get mad at her because she wanted a bigger wedding than 70 people is ridiculous. Him and the Russian guy Alexander P were losers!!! Aiden was the one and you can see the love between them when they saw each other again in the second movie. Come on, like the years have been kind to him!!! I own all the episodes. She, like many women, would wear good-looking, credit score killing shoes because she liked the way she looked in them, even if they caused her great pain.

The Russian did, and she ran off with him immediately. I know this is crazy, but I liked her with Berger and his crazy self. He made her laugh. He was smart and creative— witty, and a writer, like her. He went to Prada with her. He turned out to be a a spineless insecure jerk, but at least he was fun for a bit except of course for the bad sex in the beginning. Big standing Carrie up at the wedding is unforgivable. I kind of like your analysis. I never really thought about the money connection.

But it totally makes sense. And while I hear what you are saying here, I was never a fan of Berger. This is awesome! I will definitely take the time to read more of your blog! I have my own Mr Big.

Like Mr Big, my Mr Big never promised anything and in the end left to see the world and have a job in another country aged Two years later, he was sure he wanted me. It took some months but in the end I moved to be with him. This was over 15 years ago. He is still the same man, just grown up. Thanks for sharing your story. Growing up and changing is different to me. Hello, Catherine! Me too, I also hate Mr. You said it well, Carol!

Thanks for getting on the anti-Mr. Big bus. Maybe we can take over the world. I love Carrie, but as someone who finally kicked her own Mr. I have been ranting about this to all of my friends. This is the type of stuff that sets us all up for unrealistic expectations and unhealthy relationships! Ten years. Not cool. So after breaking up with my bf, and a painful summer of trying to move on, I moved to a new city sounds drastic, but fallowing my dreams and finally getting my masters.

To make myself feel better, i started re watching SATC and it just pisses me off to see Carrie, cheating on Aidan, calling off the wedding and ending up with Big! I It gives the message to women that their crappy relationship will change, and that their bf will want to marry them! Who does that! Guys like Aidan should win! Big in their life usually their first love.

While I get upset with Carrie every time that she goes back to Big, I have to remember that I would probably do the same with my first love. That one percent of hope that us women have is enough to keep us interested. I used to think my boyfriend was Mr.

I have a big crush on Mr. Big perhaps because his dark hair, nose, smile, mystery and overall charm remind me of my boyfriend. He, like Mr. Big, more or less accepts me for who I am and puts up with a lot of my shit. But you know what? Maybe part of them wants someone would humiliate them.

Maybe they want someone who constantly mirrors their own flaws back at them! Plus me likes the bad boys! Sure, he did still stand her up for her wedding, a truly asshole thing to do, but she eventually realized as well what she might have done that contributed to his action, and they were able to work it out.

Carrie saw him making a step. It may not have been huge, but it was something. And once she started appreciating the little things he did, their relationship transformed. At the end of the day, l feel like you should stop hating him, simply because Carrie kept going back for more again and again! She also kept making the same mistakes every time they had a do-over, I might add.

It also goes back to self-confidence and self-worth. As a side note I was thinking that somehow women seem to be good at friendships, but they never usually take what works in friendships and apply it to romantic relationships.

Her relationships with her friends were probably the healthiest and stablest relationships she ever had! Totally agree! I absolutely love Mr. Big, probably because I -like you- have my own Mr. Big in my life, but unlike yours, mine is also a commitmentphobe. Big I am reminded of the Mr. Big in that was in my life. He was my first real love and like Mr. Big, he was tall, dark and handsome. Always seemed aloof until you got to know him and I was always nervous around him no matter what like how Carrie described herself around Mr.

I, however, decided to make things work with my Aiden instead of Mr. I am now married and am enjoying a wonderful, happy life with someone who truly loves and cares for me as I do for him and there are no games in our relationship. Big and he recently ended all communication right before I got married and blamed it on his current girlfriend making him end contact with his exes.

This is more to vent than any other reason. I still feel a strange sense of rejection even though there is absolutely no reason that I should. Thank you for your post, I really enjoyed it! For good. And i agree with you about the major life event as the exception…i know this relationship really changed me and everything i thought i knew about love life and relationships smh.

HE ruined the happily ever after, and not me, you, or anyone else should have to feel guilty about dealing with it how we want and then getting over it. In rewatching I do agree with everything said about Big and Carrie together. I never thought Aidan was even remotely right for Carrie.

There was no evidence they should have been together at all. I wish they had given Carrie a reasonable alternative to Big. But they never did. Then I found my Big.

We had a very tumultuous relationship which eventually ended up with him pursuing me and asking me to marry him for several years before I agreed. We are very happy. I think in his case it was a maturity thing. Had I married him when he was in his 20s or 30s or even early 40s it would not have worked. But as he approached 50 his values and perspective changed and now he is a wonderful husband but still has that magnetic allure. So it can happen but I would not suggest anyone take the long journey it took to get here.

Big is NYC. Carrie loves NYC. It is part of her identity. He becomes a part of her character and there is no spark between her and Aidan like there is with her and Mr. Big does show his love to Carrie.. This type of man is not desirable to the type of women that want to settle down and have a family.

You must understand NYC in order to understand Mr. Reading this made me cry because after 4. This is the 3rd time this year and 4th in total. I believe people can change, but only if they truly want to and take the steps to change. I feel so pathetic for wanting this person back who has hurt me so much this past year.

However, just as Miranda once confronted Carrie, I did not buy that Mr. Big was sincere. For those living in reality their relationship is an example of what intimacy is not — all your points are valid, especially the cheater part. Instead of being all warm and fuzzy at the series finale, I was annoyed, angry even that these women are so stupid. The entire series perpetuates the idea that you should give bad relationships a second chance. I think I can safely say that Carrie is the worst role model for women I have ever seen.

She is consistently incessantly needy, requiring a man to validate her life. She constantly complains about Mr. Then she keeps running back to Mr. Big a relationship which has proven to be really bad for her, and has never worked out for him to treat her like crap again.

Wow lots of comments, I cannot say that you are wrong, i doubt anyone can…. I would say that at least half the women out there are attracted to men that have that arrogant, distant, wicked aura. I know the feeling, it does hurt, it makes you weaker in a way that toughens you up. I have to say that in most cases it just gets worse, up to the point he will exclude you from his life completly simply because you are not easy-to-comprehend enough or you make them feel stuff that contradict their commitment issues.

I have been having a hard time lately. Hello, and YES! I know this particular article is a couple of years past, but I can definitely lend some points on giving Mr.

Big another shot. Aidan in, Big out. Here are some of the reasons why;. He stayed late at a wedding with her when she stonewalled him in a petulant pout. He forgave her for slugging him in the face physical abuse!

He took care of her neurotic friend Charlotte when she was in labour, despite the many malignments of their collective nattering behind his back — discussing his most intimate relationships and secrets. He built her a walk-in closet Imelda Marcus would kill for in an over-priced penthouse she sulkily demanded he purchase.

He put up with her drunken histrionics, neurotic and intrusive friends, and was in her life as a constant support and financier. Consistently, we see this man showing up for her over and over again! The truth is, people do change. They make mistakes, they learn, they experience, they grow. People change all the time. Now, it would be Big. Big time. Thanks Chicke! And he offered to loan her 40k for her apt. Sorry, had to add that one. Totally agree with you on this.

Esp the point that SATC tells women they will be rewarded if they put up with a bad guy, pander to him, chase him, wait for him, and be treated like crap by him. Big never would have married Carrie in real life. And I hated how their relationship started out—she was doing all the chasing, calling him, asking him to dinner, etc. Not a good idea.

If she would have stopped, she would have had no relationship. The man works and should be able to go to Paris if he needs to. All the signs were there. She chased him for so many years too! As little girls all we were ever taught to fantasize about was getting married, Prince Charming, being with a man. The storybooks should have taught us how to live our own lives well, how to be ourselves and have lives of our own, and how THAT will attract and sustain a relationship with a man.

Aidan was too good for Carrie. He was smart to leave her. She deserved Mr. Big…they were two peas in a very toxic pod. Mr Big is a very selfish man. He only comes to Carrie when he has emotional needs. Once he gets Carrie he will just dump her for a while to enjoy freedom, and then he will need Carrie again,,,, never ending circle. A man like Mr Big, arrogant, irresponsible, selfish and Carrie is indecisive, confused, bad with money management and selfish, those two people are made for each other.

Adian is a wonderful man but he gets dumped just because he is too available to Carrie. He deserves a much better woman than Carrie. I realize this was written several years ago. I stumbled across it and it intrigued me.

I had the DVDs, but along the way they get scratched, lose some etc.